Mexican politeness an empirical study on the reasons underlying/motivating practices to construct local interpersonal relationships

Classical ethnocentric decontextualized research concepts of Mexican underlying/motivating. Intuitive approaches in reflecting the definitions of impolity/politeness without regard to the socio-cultural context in which the interaction takes place.

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University of Guadalajara

Mexican politeness an empirical study on the reasons underlying/motivating practices to construct local interpersonal relationships

Gerrard Mugford

Abstract

Fundamental concepts are all too often taken for granted in im/politeness research, especially since they are not always carefully and fully defined before researchers engage in confronting methodological issues. Definitions of im/politeness may reflect `armchair' or intuitive approaches (Jucker and Staley 2017), which frequently ignore the sociocultural context within which relational work is performed. Following Larina's (2015) concept of communicative ethno-style, this study examines how Mexican im/politeness studies regularly build on classic ethnocentric decontextualised im/politeness approaches (e.g., Brown and Levinson 1987) and fail to understand laypeople's co-constructed discursive approaches (e.g. Watts 2003). This paper questions national and regional stereotypical approaches to understanding im/politeness practices and patterns. It examines the Mexican context and identifies how relational work is carried out at a localised level. Individual interactants can decide how they want to come across and which pragmatic resources they will employ when constructing, developing and maintaining interpersonal relationships. The paper is structured in the following way. First, I examine theoretical, discursive and contextually explanatory approaches to researching Spanish-language im/politeness in general. Then, by focusing on individual underlying social and linguistic behaviour, I scrutinise particular Mexican sociocultural politeness practices such as displaying confianza (familiar trust) and respeto (hierarchical respect) (Felix-Brasdefer 2008). In order to do so, I asked interview participants to assess their own motivations behind employing such im/politeness practices and provide experiences/instances of Mexican sociocultural practices. Finally, discussion focuses on how Mexican interactants co-construct interpersonal relations and how these are reflected through localised im/politeness patterns and practices

Keywords: Mexican understandings of im/politeness, choice, relational work, interpersonal language

Аннотация

Мексиканская вежливость: эмпирическое исследование причин использования коммуникативных практик для конструирования межличностных отношений

Герард Магфорд, Гвадалахарский университет

Фундаментальные понятия в исследовании не/вежливости часто принимаются как данность, хотя ученые, приступая к решению методологических проблем, не всегда дают им четкие и полные определения. Определения не/вежливости могут отражать далекие от реальности интуитивные подходы (Jucker & Staley 2017), нередко игнорирующие социокультурный контекст, в котором осуществляется взаимодействие. Опираясь на понятие коммуникативного этностиля Т.В Лариной (Larina 2015), настоящая статья показывает, что исследования мексиканской не/вежливости в значительном числе случаев исходят из классических этноцентрических деконтекстуализированных концепций (например, Brown&Levinson 1987) и не учитывают наивные дискурсивные подходы (например, Watts 2003). В данной статье подвергаются сомнению национальные и региональные стереотипные подходы к пониманию коммуникативных практик и моделей не/вежливости. В ней анализируется мексиканский контекст и выявляется, каким образом реляционные проблемы решаются на локальном уровне. Индивидуумы могут выбирать, какой образ себя они хотят представить и какие прагматические ресурсы хотят применить, конструируя, развивая и поддерживая межличностные отношения. Статья структурирована следующим образом. Сначала в ней анализируются теоретические, дискурсивные и контекстуальные объяснительные подходы к рассмотрению испаноязычной не/вежливости в целом. Затем исследуется индивидуальное социальное и языковое поведение, а также детально рассматриваются мексиканские социокультурные практики вежливости, такие как выражение доверия близким (confianza) и иерархического уважения (respeto) (Felix-Brasdefer 2008). С этой целью был проведен опрос, в котором участникам предлагалось оценить свои собственные мотивы использования таких практик не/вежливости и привести примеры мексиканских социокультурных практик. И, наконец, рассматривается, каким образом коммуниканты участвуют в конструировании межличностных отношений и как это отражается в мексиканских паттернах и практиках не/вежливости.

Ключевые слова: мексиканское понимание не/вежливости, выбор, реляционные практики, язык межличностного общения

Introduction

In an effort to categories theoretical im/politeness models and to classify the ever-increasing number of im/politeness studies, researchers often structure different approaches in terms of first, second and third waves (Kadar 2017; Kadar and Haugh 2013). This step has proved useful in separating universalistic theoretical first-wave perceptions from situationally focused discursive second- wave understandings. Meanwhile, third-wave approaches attempt to interrelate theory and practice so that practical observation can be grounded within a theoretical framework (Kadar 2017). These lines of research, however, have either taken for granted, or grappled with, definitions of politeness, impoliteness, rudeness etc., especially since theoretical politeness models (e.g. Brown and Levinson 1987: Leech 1983) reflect ethnocentric and decontextualised perspectives (e.g., see Culpeper 2011a). On the other hand, as discussed by Culpeper (2011a), discursive approaches which examine situated and localised im/politeness instances often lack an explanatory framework from which it is difficult to draw any overall conclusions regarding im/politeness patterns and practices. As a result, third-wave approaches attempt to construct explanatory meanings from situated im/politeness practices.

Building on first-, second- and third-wave approaches to understanding politeness, I examine motivation and choice behind Spanish-language im/politeness practices (Fitch 2007) as interactants decide how they want to come across personally, interpersonally and socially. Personal projection of politeness, following Halliday's personal dimension, reflects `the expression of our own personalities and personal feelings' (1973/1997: 36). The interpersonal aspect signals participant co-construction i.e. `the achieving of meaning and action in interaction (Arundale 2010, 2078). Meanwhile, societal norms will dictate acceptable and appropriate politeness behaviour (Fraser 1990).

To understand communicative choices from the language users' perspective, I adopt a participative approach (Kadar and Haugh 2013), which helps identify personal, interpersonal and social patterns of behaviour, or what Larina (2015) terms communicative ethno-style. This position examines how laypeople employ im/politeness in establishing, maintaining, enhancing and undermining relationships (see also Spencer-Oatey 2008a, and section below on Second-wave Politeness). Given the predominantly Western cultural influence on im/politeness studies which are often seen to be ethnocentric, this study examines Latin American practices with a focus on how Mexican interactants engage in relational work. To this end, 32 middle-class Mexican professionals were interviewed regarding their perception of Spanish-language im/politeness communicative modes or speech events (Fitch 2007).

To examine the concept of politeness choices, I first relate first- and second- wave approaches to the study of Latin American politeness practices. Subsequently, I survey communicative choices that Mexican participants employ in order to express im/politeness. Then, the results of the interviews are presented and analysed so as to understand how these resources are used to achieve relational objectives. It should be stated from the outset that this is not a comparative study - other cultures may well adhere to the same practices. However, the objective of this study is to understand how Mexican interactants themselves understand their own practices.

1. Spanish-language politeness

Whilst im/politeness studies in Spanish have largely compared and contrasted regional practices and are heavily influenced by universalistic `Anglo-American models' (Marquez Reiter and Placencia 2005: 166), less research work has focused on relational dimensions that allow interactants to construct their own modes of behaviour. So rather than attempting to survey Spanish-language politeness research which has been amply and carefully carried out by Placencia and Garda (2007) and Felix-Brasdefer and Mugford (forthcoming), this work examines how choice is enacted in Spanish-language politeness practices. As seen in the ensuing examination of the three waves, Mexican politeness ought not to be discussed in `scientific' terms but rather needs to be studied regarding how it is enacted and perceived by the interactants themselves.

1.1 First-wave politeness

First-wave politeness approaches in Spanish have mainly concentrated on studying speech acts (Marquez Reiter and Placencia 2005), mitigation (Czerwionka 2014; Maiz-Arevalo 2018) and terms of address (Mugford and Arias Moreno 2017). These communicative activities reflect the use of strategic and ritual politeness (Bernal 2018). First-wave approaches are theory-driven and are supported by practical examples as opposed to examining real-life practices and conventions, and consequently constructing a theoretical framework. Classic approaches towards politeness adopt a universalist approach and claim that politeness practices are similar across languages: `The essential idea is this: interactional systematics are based largely on universal principles. But the application of the principles differs systematically across cultures, and within cultures across subcultures categories and groups' (Brown and Levinson 1987: 283).

Strategic politeness `refers to acts intended to avoid face-threatening risks' (Bernal 2018, 133). Research into speech acts, for instance, has focused on how interactional objectives are achieved as seen through Ecuadorian refusals of offers (Placencia 2019) or Venezuelan and Argentinean invitation practices in terms of distance and power (Garcia 2008). Meanwhile, mitigation may be achieved through the use of diminutives (e.g. -ita in abuelita to show affection for grandmothers) and intensifiers (-isima as in buenisima to say `very good') and consequently provides choices regarding how interactants wish to express emotion, affect, and closeness (Czerwionka 2014; Maiz-Arevalo 2018). With regards to terms of address, interactional choices take into consideration the addressee, context and communicative function. For instance, Mugford and Arias Moreno (2017) argue that the T/V pronoun distinction in Mexican Spanish cannot solely be understood by identifying predetermined social variables, e.g., power and respect, but needs to be understood through the concepts of autonomy and affiliation (Bravo 2008) (see also Scollon and Scollon 1995). Whilst hardly new, these concepts reflect an attempt to describe Spanish-language politeness in its own terms rather than solely rely on Anglo-American ethnocentric and decontextualised models (e.g. Brown and Levinson 1987: Leech 1983). Bravo (2008) argues that autonomy refers to how an interactant wants to portray him/herself and how he/she wants to be seen by others. Therefore, the choice of T/V pronouns often reflects how an interactant positions him/herself with respect to others.

Ritual politeness reflects everyday behavioural practice which `occurs in meeting situations (which include acts of greeting at their initiation and saying goodbye at the end), and visit situations, including several acts that are performed by the host or the guest, according to their situational role in the encounter' (Bernal 2018: 266). Bernal's definition, which also appears to cover conventional politeness (for the distinction, see Terkourafi and Kadar 2017), would indicate that choice is determined by interpersonal relationships, situation and communicative purpose.

Whilst identified in first-wave politeness approaches, choices reflect communicative strategies rather than how interactants envisage their overall relationship with others and they reveal how relationships can be developed, maintained or disregarded. First-wave approaches provide a strong theoretical basis and framework with which to construct an understanding of politeness patterns and practices but often lack a situational setting in which to examine its actual use and practice.

1.2 Second-wave politeness

Second-wave politeness approaches in Spanish have focused on local contextual language use across conversational turns as opposed to examining single speech acts. Bernal (2018) discussed this in terms of valorising and discursive politeness. Valorising relates to relational work, e.g. rapport enhancement (Spencer-Oatey 2008a) whilst discursive reflects interactional and conversational expressions of politeness. Spencer-Oatey's work is especially relevant for second- wave Spanish-language politeness research as she argues that `[e]very language... provides a very wide range of linguistic options that can be used for managing face and sociality rights, and hence for managing rapport' (2008b: 21). This means that each language needs to be studied as to how rapport is expressed interpersonally, situationally and contextually at both the individual and interactional levels. This can be achieved through `[t]he discursive approach [which] is focused on the analysis of utterances in context and concerns itself with the judgements of individuals.' (Mills 2017: 15). Therefore, in trying to understand politeness practices and patterns, the individual interlocutors are the focus of attention.

Valorising politeness attempts `to enhance the face of interlocutors, which can be achieved through acts such as directly complimenting them (their intelligence, their physical appearance) or things that belong to them' (Bernal 2008, 268). This can be carried out by engaging in face-boosting acts (FBAs) (Bayraktaroglu 1991, 2001) and face enhancement (Sifianou 1995). In the Mexican context, FBAs are often expressed by demonstrating `confianza - `sense of deep familiarity' (Felix- Brasdefer 2006, 2162); camaraderie - interpersonal intimacy (Felix-Brasdefer 2008); afiliacion - group affinity and loyalty (Curco 2007); respeto - respect for the addressee's personal integrity (Curco 2007); and reciprocidad - reciprocity (Curco 2011)' (Mugford 2014: 108). These strategies aim to develop and consolidate interpersonal relationships by directly, often publicly and unreservedly bolstering the face(s) of other interactants.

Discursive politeness is revealed in conversational turns as interactional resources aid the co-construction of communicative meaning between participants. Discursive politeness `utilizes the social function of showing interest for the interlocutors as competent speakers and of showing commitment with their discourses, ratifying them as valid narrators' (Bernal 2018: 136). In Spanish- language interaction this needs to be considered in terms of identity (Fant 1989), self-assertiveness (Fant 1989) and affiliation (Bravo 2008). The expression of identity, self-assertiveness and affiliation can be seen in such discursive patterns as the sequential organisation of talk and organisation of turn-taking patterns (Marquez Reiter and Placencia 2005). These practices can be specifically examined in backchannelling, interrupting, latching, overlapping, etc., as interactants establish their individuality and affiliation with other participants. For instance, whilst interrupting is socially proscribed, observation in all but every formal meetings between strangers, suggests that Spaniards talk over each other (a) without necessarily `interrupting' the speaker, (b) without any intention of impeding the beginning, middle or end of a message, but rather (c) most often simply to express an opinion for forcefully showing enthusiasm, passion and positive involvement in the conversation... (Hickey 2005:318)

Therefore, interrupting practices in Spanish often allow participants to demonstrate their individuality, self-assuredness and identification with other interactants. A discursive approach can also be found in Fernandez-Amaya (2019) who examines assertion and affiliation in terms of disagreement and impoliteness in a WhatsApp interaction within a Spanish family. She concludes that disagreement within the family should not necessarily be interpreted as face threatening.

Second-wave research provides rich data but the nature of its situational collection and analysis means that greater theoretical insights and implications may not be achieved and explored. As argued by Haugh (2007), the discursive approach runs the risk of abandoning politeness theory altogether and reducing its field to the study of interpersonal interaction.

1.3 Third wave politeness

Third-wave politeness interrelates communicative practice with theoretical understandings. It attempts to offer a contextually explanatory approach to understanding why participants behave in certain ways. Third-wave politeness understandings reject first-wave rationalistic theory-driven approaches which exemplify `its principles with examples of observed language use' (Grundy 2000, 186). Unlike second-wave approaches, it attempts to construct theory and explanation from situated politeness practices. A third-wave approach was adopted by Culpeper (2011b) in order to understand participants' understanding of impoliteness. He collected a mass of data including video recordings, written texts, corpus data and 100 informant reports and by also administering an impoliteness perception questionnaire. Based on findings from such data, Culpeper made firm scientific statements regarding impoliteness practices. However, as argued by Marquez Reiter and Placencia, `[t]he model of politeness that has had the greatest impact in the work of Hispanists, as in the work of other language specialists, is without doubt that of Brown and Levinson (1978, 1987)' (2005: 177). Consequently, Spanish-language politeness research work has focused on supporting theory with practical examples. However, there are exceptions and third- wave approaches can be found, for instance, in Felix-Brasdefer who `examined pragmatic variation in the context of service encounters in markets in Yucatan, Mexico' including `the forms of address used to negotiate the request (stylistic level)' (2012: 44). He concludes that ... it is important to understand that requests for service in commercial (and non-commercial) settings are co-constructed and are the result of a collaborative process between buyer and seller to conduct transactions and to achieve meaning in social interaction. (Felix-Brasdefer 2012: 44)

Meanwhile, Marquez Reiter examined how Spanish speaking `participants to service calls may navigate commercial constraints in their attempt to pursue their interactional agenda' (2019: 140). With both the call centre agent and the client negotiating high levels of ambiguity, Marquez Reiter (2019) sheds light on the minutiae of trying to achieve a sale and client resistance and the interactive resources that the participants employ to further their irreconcilable agendas.

2 Mexican sociocultural values

Mexican politeness practices reportedly focus more on the hearer rather than on the speaker. For instance, Grinsted (2000, in Curco 2007) argued that `Mexicans place the hearer in the center and the self on the periphery' (Curco 2007: 113). This study examines and questions this assertion and examine the focus on Mexican politeness practices. Mexican politeness practices have been identified in second- wave approaches as a way of understanding politeness patterns and conduct. However, work still needs to be done on explaining the theoretical basis for these choices (a third-wave approach). In order to avoid privileging first-wave politeness methods which reflect researcher analysis, this paper takes a user-centred approach by asking the interactants themselves what is the rationale behind engaging in specific politeness practices and to highlight their perceptions and understandings of politeness practices. By examining real-life practices and conventions, this paper consequently aims to construct a subsequent theoretical framework rather than commencing with a theoretical framework or solely looking at politeness practices in a series of communicative situations. Since politeness conduct always involves choice, there must be a basis for interacting in a certain manner. In this way, everyday relational activity can be related to an overall framework of interpersonal understandings and communicative meanings.

If Mexican politeness as a concept cannot be described in universalistic terms as argued in classic politeness theory and only at a discursive level, it becomes important to examine how interactants themselves understand politeness practices and conduct. This position is supported by Locher and Larina who underscore the importance of the `evaluative and situated nature of concepts such as impoliteness or politeness' (2019: 875). Whilst Mexican politeness practices such as confianza, camaraderie, afiliacion, respeto, and reciprocidad have been identified (e.g. Felix- Brasdefer 2008; Mugford 2011, 2013, 2014), little follow-up work has specifically examined, illustrated and exemplified the phenomenon. A greater understanding can be achieved by constructing a theoretical framework around which their use highlights how interpersonal and transactional relationships are constructed, developed and are maintained in everyday Mexican Spanish politeness practices.

Mexican politeness practices reflect relational work as interactants establish, develop/enhance and play with interpersonal and transactional relationships. One way of achieving this is by engaging in such practices as mostrar confianza (show familiar trust) and mostrar respeto (demonstrate hierarchical respect) (Felix- Brasdefer 2008). A specific politeness practice will depend on personal choice, interpersonal cooperation and social patterns of behaviour. Furthermore, politeness practices need to be related to specific speech communities and, therefore, the following terms relate specifically to the Guadalajara metropolitan area, which is located in western central Mexico, with a population of more than 5 million inhabitants.

When establishing relationships, participants will often focus on identifying and responding to the needs of others, which involves showing respect (respeto), catering to others' needs without being purposely asked (ser servicial) and recognising others' social status (dar su lugar). These actions acknowledge the addressee's social status and pay them the respect that they are seen to be worthy of.

In maintaining relationships, participants will often do good and help others without seeking or expecting any reciprocal action (hacer el bien) and are ready and willing to help when needed (acomedirse). Such activities reflect conformity to social norms and, at the same time, indicate a disinterested desire to respond to the needs of others.

To develop and enhance relationships, interactants frequently adopt a much more personal dimension by demonstrating very Mexican expressions of closeness, certainty and trust (mostrar confianza), and openly display a sense of fondness, affection and warmth towards others (mostrar carino). Such manifestations may be apparent through face boosting acts as interactants publicly strengthen others' positive image and standing.

The ludic dimension to interpersonal relationships can be seen through good- natured teasing (echar carrilla) and joking/pulling someone's leg (vacilar). Whilst conversationally risky, the use of playful language, if successfully carried out, can further consolidate relationships as addressees do not feel that their face has been threatened or undermined.

Figure 1

Mexican Spanish-language relational modes

These categories can be summarised as follows:

Relational work

Mexican Spanish term

Translation to English

Establish relationships

Dar su lugar

Recognise social status

Mostrar respeto

Show respect

Maintain relationships

Hacer el bien

Do good to others

Ser servicial

Be helpful and attentive

Acomedirse

Be ready / willing to help

Develop/ enhance

Mostrar confianza,

Show trust

relationships

Mostrar carino

Show affection

Play within relationships

Echar carrilla

Tease

Vacilar

Pull someone's leg

Given the interpersonal, cooperative and social nature of Mexican politeness practices, interactants have the freedom to enact them in the way they want to (or not at all). How relational work is actually carried out depends on individual choice as interactants decide how they want to adhere to personal, interpersonal, cultural and social patterns of behaviour. Therefore, choice offers the participants communicative options regarding how they want to come across in each individual relationship.

2. Data and Methodology

To carry out the study, emails were sent out during October 2019 to 100 potential respondents inviting them to participate in the research which aims to understand the relational choices available to interactants when enacting politeness. The participants were requested within a month to complete a questionnaire which asked them whether they employed a particular politeness resource and, if so, why, with whom and where (see Appendix). In follow-up interviews, the participants were asked to recall and highlight specific politeness patterns and practices.

The politeness categories examined in this paper build on classification studies previously undertaken by Felix-Brasdefer (2008), Fitch (2007) and Mugford (2011) who have examined concepts such as respeto (respect), ser servicial (to be helpful and obliging) and confianza (sense of deep familiarity). This study centres on respondents' subjective perceptions of politeness practices in terms of personal motivation and choice. It adopts a self-report methodology as followed by Hernandez-Lopez (2019) who examined 120 Airbnb reviews to understand users' emotional orientations. In the same vein, in this study, participants were asked whether they undertook a specific relational practice (Adherence to practice).

Whilst it might be anticipated that interactants would automatically say yes, the underlying focus of the study is on understanding the motivation behind politeness practices. Consequently, participants were asked why they might engage in an individual practice (Relational focus) i.e. why use it and for what purpose. They were then asked with whom they used the practice (Focus of practice) and where (Context). The close similarity of the answers suggests that inferences and suppositions can be drawn from the results. Whilst these might not lead to solid conclusions, they do provide insights into Mexican politeness practices.

2.1 Participants

From the emails sent out, 32 respondents agreed to take part in the study. The profile of the participant in this study is that of a middle-class Mexican educational professional holding a university degree and aged between 25 and 40. (Further research may reveal whether social and education backgrounds are important factors in studying Mexican politeness practices.) The respondents are all personally known to the researcher through professional and social networks. They live in the Guadalajara metropolitan area, Mexico's second largest conurbation after Mexico City. The respondents were assured of a complete anonymity with their answers. At the same time, all of the answers were written in English and none of their answers have been modified or corrected in any way.

2.2 Categories Analysed

In order to analyse politeness practices, data are discussed in terms of the relational work in which interactants participate as they establish, maintain and develop / enhance relationships or how they engage in play within relationships. To understand how interactants establish relationships, a language of description highlights key concepts such as respect, assistance and concern for others as interactants show interest in recognising the status of others and supporting their wellbeing. As interlocutors seek to maintain relationships, important notions concern social harmony, comity and responsiveness as interactants try to be alert, aware and sensitive to the needs of others. To further develop and/or enhance rapport, interlocutors often pursue more meaningful interpersonal relationships which are often expressed through the concepts of solidarity, supportiveness and closeness. Finally, by engaging in play within relationships, participants demonstrate greater levels of trust and closeness, especially in terms of camaraderie, commonality and interpersonal cohesion.

2.3 Questionnaire and interview design

The questionnaire asks respondents to consider whether they adhere to nine Mexican relational practices which have been discussed above; dar su lugar (recognise others' social status); mostrar respeto (show respect); hacer el bien (help others without seeking reciprocal action), ser servicial (cater to others' needs), acomedirse (be ready and willing to help), mostrar confianza (demonstrate closeness, certainty and trust), mostrar carino (display fondness, affection and warmth towards others), echar carrilla (good-natured teasing) and vacilar (joking/pulling someone's leg). Respondents were asked first of all whether they adhere to these practices and if so, what they consider the function of these relational practices to be. They were subsequently asked to say whom they used them with and in which situations or contexts. In conclusion, these questions aim to determine the popularity of these practices among young adults. Follow-up interviews reflected reconstructed dialogue as participants were asked to recall specific incidents that exemplified a given politeness practice.

Results. As perhaps is to be expected, most participants utilized all the politeness resources. However, the element of choice can be perceived in their motivation for employing individual resources and with whom and in which context. Due to space limitations, some practices are exemplified more than others.

Dar su lugar. Of the 32 respondents in the study, 26 practise dar su lugar (recognise others' social status):

Table 1

Use of dar su lugar (recognise social status) in constructing interpersonal relationships

Relational practice

Adherence to practice

Relational focus

Focus of practice

Context

Dar su lugar

26

Self: 5

Others: 6

Society: 15

Everyone: 6

Family: 16, Friends: 5

Co-workers: 8 Socially: 10

Everywhere: 9

Home: 4

Work: 6, Social: 13

The main motivation (15 replies) was social consideration of others in order to show respect and hierarchy since every person deserves to be treated as what they are (MP8) and to show politeness because of cultural tradition (MP25). Participants asserted that dar su lugar is mainly practised in the family (16 replies) and to some extent at work (8 replies). This finding reflects the importance in Mexican politeness practices of recognising hierarchy and status both in the family and at work. While practised on an everyday basis, it is particularly prevalent in social events where interlocutors are sensitive to the status of others. Therefore, dar su lugar can be seen as a semi-private display of politeness and is not especially evident with friends or in everyday life.

The enactment of dar su lugar can be seen through everyday practices such as recognising addresses' professional status e.g. the public use of titles such as arquitecto (architect) and ingeniero (engineer) before their last name or acknowledging educational achievement by addressing hearers as licenciado(a) if they hold a B.A. and especially if it is a law degree.

Mostrar respeto

With regards to mostrar respeto (show respect), all the respondents said that they engaged in this practice:

Table 2

Use of mostrar respeto (to show respect) in constructing interpersonal relationships

Relational practice

Adherence to practice

Relational focus

Focus of practice

Context

Mostrar respeto

32

Self: 12

Others: 9

Society: 11

Everyone: 10

Family: 9

Friends: 6

Co-workers: 13 Socially: 15

Everywhere: 14 Home: 5

Work: 14

Social: 12

Respondents were divided as to why they express respect. with 12 participants saying that it was for reciprocal reasons: I do it because I expect respect from others too (MP4), I like to be respected (MP21) and I treat people the way I wish I was treated (MP29). In second place were societal reasons for showing respect: To show hierarchy between old people and young people (MP2), to build feelings of wellbeing (MP6) and to show education (MP27). Results show that it is a widespread public practice which aims to reinforce societal relations in terms of social harmony, comity and responsiveness.

In the Mexican context, mostrar respeto is an everyday practice which recognises age, social status and professional standing. So, for instance, Karla was sitting on as bus with her sister, Carolina, when an elderly lady got on and Carolina offer her seat with /Gusta sentarse? (Would you like to sit down?). Whilst Carolina's action may be interpreted as simple good manners, her language usage reveals a deeper level of Spanish-language respect (see, for instance, Felix- Brasdefer (2008), Fitch (2007) and Mugford (2011). Besides using the respectful usted form, she employed the invitational gustar which carries the implied meaning of hopefully being pleasing to the addressee. Therefore, the simple use of two words was enough to recognise the elderly lady's societal status.

Hacer el bien

When it comes to hacer el bien (help others without seeking reciprocal action), only one respondent said that they did not engage in this practice:

ethnocentric sociocultural mexican politeness

Table 3

Use of hacer el bien (to help others) in constructing interpersonal relationships

Relational practice

Adherence to practice

Relational focus

Focus of practice

Context

Hacer el bien

31

Self: 18

Others: 6

Society: 7

Everyone: 14

Family: 8

Friends: 10

Co-workers: 7

Socially: 9

Everywhere: 18

Home: 2

Work: 7

Social: 10

Results indicate that although the relational practice is defined as being generous and giving, the majority of interactants, (18 replies), engaged in this practice for self-oriented and reciprocal reasons: I feel good myself (MP 21), well in my opinion, if I do good I will receive good (MP 23) and to have a clear conscience by conforming to established moral standards (MP32). Whilst well established as a common social practice and performed in public contexts, the rationale seemed to be especially focused on the self.

Hacer el bien means doing the right thing in interpersonal and transactional relationships. For instance, in the following incident, recounted by Fabiola, office recruitment staff in the human resources department in the company where she works had received new prepaid cards with which to buy groceries. However, they went to see their manager, Fabiola, to report that they had been paid twice: on both new and old pre-paid cards. She narrates the incident in the form of reconstructed dialogue:

Sara:Fabiola, depositaron doble en la tarjeta de vales. O sea, tengo dineroen las dos tarjetas.

Fabiola:- En serio? Dejame revisar si en la mia tambien.

Sara: Solo quiero saber cual es la buena.

Fabiola: La nueva tarjeta, la anterior fue un error.

Sara: Va, Gracias. Minutos despues entraron los 4 reclutadores y entregaron sus tarjetas de vales viejas.

Sara: Les dije que te las dejaramos, porque se puede hacer mal uso de esas tarjetas y mejor te las dejamos aqui. Ya avisamos a nuestros companeros y amigos que no las vayan a usar.

Translation:

Sara: Fabiola, they deposited money in both voucher cards. I mean, I have money on both cards.

Fabiola: Seriously? Let me check and see if it is the same with mine as well.

Sara: I just want to know which is right one.

Fabiola: The new card, the old one is a mistake.

Sara: Ok. Thank you.

Minutes later the 4 recruiters returned and handed in their old pre-paid cards.

Sara: I told them to leave them, because you can misuse those cards and we better leave them here. We already warned our colleagues and friends not to use them.

Whilst the incident can be seen, on one level, as an act of honesty, the employees' actions and language reveal underlying relational practices. Sara is not seeking recognition or praise but clarification: Solo quiero saber cual es la buena. (I just want to know which is the right one). There is no hint of her trying to take advantage of the situation. Beside handing in the old cards without being asked to do so, the employees went further and asked other colleagues not to use the cards. Her actions are aimed at rectifying the situation: mejor te las dejamos aqui (we better leave them here).

Ser servicial

With respect to ser servicial (cater to others' needs), only four participants said that they did not engage in the practice:

Table 4

Use of ser servicial (cater to others' needs) in constructing interpersonal relationships

Relational practice

Adherence to practice

Relational focus

Focus of practice

Context

Ser servicial

28

Self: 16

Others: 10

Society: 2

Everyone: 6

Family: 16

Friends: 11

Co-workers: 11

Socially: 7

Everywhere: 8

Home: 9

Work: 13

Social: 13

Similar to hacer el bien, the practice is focused on both the self and reciprocity as 16 interactants gave these reasons as their prime motivation: To show others that I was well raised (MP 3), Because I look ahead, maybe one day I'll need help with something and I would like to count on someone (MP8) and I like to feel helpful (MP13). However, it is important to recognise that many participants claim to be servicial for interactional reasons: to help others (MP5) and people might need help, and also, it's better if more people finish a task all together (MP19). Rather than being a widely practiced social phenomenon, it seems to be mostly employed with family, co-workers and friends and seen in the home, at work and in social events. Similar to mostrar respeto, it can be seen in terms of promoting social harmony, comity and responsiveness.

Ser servicial (to cater to others' needs) can be seen in everyday expressions in Mexican Spanish such as mande (literally meaning `command me'), a sus ordenes (at your service) and un servidor (literally meaning `a servant', but used in a third- person way to refer to oneself). The act of being servicial often means completely focusing on others' needs as seen in the following incident recalled by Alberto, a schoolteacher:

Two mothers were are a school party, making sure everything was being taken care of. At the moment of serving the food, there were some waiters, but they [the mothers] were also helping to serve the food. They were asking if we needed something additional to what we were offered. Since I had been in contact with one of them, she approached me and asked me how I was doing and if I needed anything else at that moment.

Hola maestro, cфmo estв? Espero que le estй gustando todo esto, la senora Rodriguez y yo quisimos venir a ayudar a organizar el evento para ustedes. ^Gusta que le traiga algo mвs?

(Hello teacher, how are you? I hope you like all this, Mrs. Rodriguez and I wanted to come to help organize the event for you. Would you like something else to be brought?)

The mothers adopted the role of servers and their only concern was the smooth running of event. Their submissiveness is conveyed through language such as Es- pero que le estй gustando todo esto (I hope you like all this) and the use of the third person address form as in icomo esta? (how are you?). This incident reveals that ser servicial is not just a matter of being deferential to those in authority but to be willing to cater to the needs of others over a wide range of contexts.

Acomedirse

When asked if they engaged in acomedirse (to be ready and willing to help), only 25 respondents said that they followed this practice:

Table 5

Use of acomedirse (ready/willing to help) in constructing interpersonal relationships

Relational practice

Adherence to practice

Relational focus

Focus of practice

Context

Acomedirse

25

Self: 12

Others: 8

Society: 5

Everyone: 5

Family: 18

Friends: 10

Co-workers: 10

Socially: 5

Everywhere: 6

Home: 10

Work: 9

Social: 11

Respondents were divided as to why they engaged in this practice, although most gave reciprocity as the main reason: Again you never know when you're going to need someone's help (MP6), To help people and to let people know that I'm not a lazy person (MP21) and I do it so it returns to me later in the future (MP31). However, other interactants engage in acomedirse for much more social reasons: just to help others if they're struggling with something in particular (MP19) and cause if you can make someone's job or activity easier or you know how something is done and can do it, why wouldn't you? (MP20). Results indicate that it is an extremely public practice performed throughout society and over a wide variety of social contexts.

Acomedirse (to be ready and willing to help) is often carried out surreptitiously and without fanfare as can be seen in the following example related by Sara.

On December 25, Berenice, took a male friend to her grandparents' house for Christmas lunch and during the meal the friend was very polite and talking all the time. Grandad said, Hey Berenice you said you were going to bring a friend not a refugee: “He eats like an orphan”. Everyone laughed. The guest said, the food was delicious and there was no way that he couldn't eat so much.

When they finished eating and they remained at the table. He went to the bathroom and when he returned, he went straight to do the dishes. No one noticed until the grandmother went to the kitchen, saw him and said:

Abuela: iQuй haces?

Invitado: En mi casa me ensenaron a lavar los trastes y lavй los trastes de todos.

Translation:

Grandmother: What are you doing?

Guest: At home I was taught to do the dishes and I have washed everyone's dishes.

The guest had helped out by doing the washing-up without the hosts being aware. The act of acomedirse demonstrates how interactants will help out in surreptitious and unnoticed ways without wanting to seek any recognition.

Mostrar confianza

In terms of mostrar confianza (demonstrate closeness, certainty and trust), 28 respondents said that performed this practice:

Table 6

Use of mostrar confianza (show closeness) in constructing interpersonal relationships

Relational practice

Adherence to practice

Relational focus

Focus of practice

Context

Mostrar confianza

28

Self: 4

Others: 22

Society: 2

Everyone: 3

Family: 19

Friends: 21

Co-workers: 5

Socially: 2

Everywhere: 5

Home: 13

Work: 7

Social: 15

In mostrar confianza, the main and overwhelming motivation was concern for others: I do it because I like the others to feel comfortable (MP1), to show others that they are in a comfortable atmosphere (MP3) and to build trust and happy and healthy relationships (MP6). This practice does appear to be more limited to family and friends and carried out in social contexts and especially at home. Therefore, it might be considered to be a more private expression of relational work which aims to reinforce solidarity, supportiveness and closeness.

To demonstrate confianza (i.e. closeness), interactants will often display a degree of openness regarding their personal lives which in other cultures would only take place after a long period of friendship if at all. The level of confianza emerges through interactants' willingness to engage in cotorreo (chit-chat), chisme (gossip) and albures (puns with double meanings).

Mostrar carino

When asked to focus on mostrar carino (display fondness, affection and warmth towards others), only four participants said that they did not engage in this practice:

Table 7

Use of mostrar carino (display affection) in constructing interpersonal relationships

Relational practice

Adherence to practice

Relational focus

Focus of practice

Context

Mostrar carino

28

Self: 12

Others: 16

Society: 0

Everyone: 0

Family: 28 Friends: 25

Co-workers: 1

Socially: 0

Everywhere: 3

Home:18

Work: 6

Social: 12

The phenomenon of mostrar carino can be seen as a private and interactional phenomenon that responds to personal and relational needs. On a personal level, interactants said they used it to show I care for the person or thing (MP26), to show someone that you love them (MP28) and it feels nice to be nice and show it (MP 29). Meanwhile, on a more interactional level, mostrar carino can make the other person know he's special (MP6), show a level of closeness and care and even love in a relationship (MP14) and build a relation (MP15). Consequently, this practice is focused mainly on friends and family, especially at home and on social occasions. Similar to mostrar confianza, mostrar carino also furthers solidarity, supportiveness and closeness.

The demonstration of carino on an everyday basis can be seen through the widespread use of diminutives to express endearment e.g. abuela (grandmother) becomes abuelita and mama (mother) can become mamita. Meanwhile nicknames are also a common way of showing endearment e.g. el guero (light-haired) and el chino (curly-haired).

Echar carrilla

With regards to echar carrilla (good-natured teasing), 25 respondents said that they engage in this practice:

Table 8

Use of echar carrilla (good-natured teasing) in constructing interpersonal relationships

Relational practice

Adherence to practice

Relational focus

Focus of practice

Context

Echar carrilla

25

Self: 10

Others: 13

Society: 2

Everyone: 1

Family: 17

Friends: 23

Co-workers: 9

Socially: 0

Everywhere: 4

Home: 8

Work: 7

Social: 11

The practice of echar carrilla is mainly performed for interactional reasons although there is a strong personal component. Among the interactional reasons were: To laugh at ourselves and have a good time (MP6), to have fun and to form a closer relationship (MP13) and to have fun and laugh or a while, it's also a way to showing when you feel comfortable enough to joke around ((MP23). However, personal reasons seem to be equally important: to laugh, to have a good time (MP12), to show some “humour” (MP 25) and have some fun with people you like having around (MP28). At the same time, echar carrilla is a semi-private practice mainly performed at home, socially and sometimes at work. When successful, echar carrilla can be seen to strengthen camaraderie, commonality and interpersonal cohesion.

Echar carrilla (good-natured teasing) can be interpreted as harmless language play as interactants engage in relational ribbing. This can be seen in the following incident where Carla remembered when one of her friends, Dafne was echando carrilla with Edna who was in a long-distance romantic relationship. Dafne said playfully jEehhh le gustas! (Eeee you like him!), Es guapo (He is good-looking), Van a hacer unapareja bonita (You guys will make a really nice couple) and jTra- elo aqui! (Bring him here!). Carla sees this gentle ribbing as polite and said the friend was only “echando romantic carrilla” (engaging in romantic teasing). This serves to reinforce the relationship between Dafne and Enda and Dafne is demonstrating explicit approval of the boyfriend.

Vacilar

With respect to vacilar (joking/pulling someone's leg). 24 respondents engaged in this practice:

Table 9

Use of vacilar (joking/pulling someone's leg) in constructing interpersonal relationships

Relational practice

Adherence to practice

Relational focus

Focus of practice

Context

Vacilar

24

Self: 15

Others: 9

Society: 0

Everyone: 1

Family: 17

Friends: 20

Co-workers: 8

Socially: 2

Everywhere: 6

Home: 8

Work: 9

Social: 10

In comparison to echar carrilla, the practice of vacilar is more self-focused as respondents gave the following motivations: because I am in a good mood ... I wanna joke or because the other person did it to me before (MP7), sometimes I use (in moderation) it to get relax with people around me, as an icebreaker (MP21) and to have fun with people you like having around (MP28). However, there is an interactional dimension: To show closeness have fun (MP11), to show the level of closeness and informality in a relationship (MP14) and to counter attack a joke or to make everybody laugh (MP26). Similar to echar carrilla, vacilar is a semiprivate practice mainly performed with friends and at social events. Similar to echar carrilla, vacilar can also bolster camaraderie, commonality and interpersonal cohesion.

Vacilar (leg-pulling) can involve making fun of others and of oneself as seen in this example provided by Sandra.

This past weekend my dad ran into a neighbour in the grocery store. My dad then gave him a ride back to his house because he was carrying a lot of many bags. On the way, the neighbour said, Fijese, nomas veniapor una cosay vea con todo lo que salt (Can you believe it, I just came for one thing and look at everything that I came away with). To this my dad replied, Yo tambien, como ve, ando de mandilon (Me too, what do you think, I just do what my wife tells me to do).

Sandra says that her father was just joking in calling himself un mandilon and that he was being ordered about. However, the self-deprecation potentially creates a bond between the two men as they can see themselves in the same situation.

In summary, the results indicate that, whilst most participants employ the full range of relational practices, they do not do so for the same reasons. I have declined to show a final graphic to jointly show the responses for all the categories under analysis because this may give the false impression that these politeness practices represent alternative strategies. Rationale and context may vary between interactants and therefore represent a much more personalised motivation and choice behind the use of relational resources which reflect social harmony, comity, solidarity, supportiveness, camaraderie and commonality.


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